I have a simple rule when something urgent or suspicious happens.
I call it The Kettle Rule.
When someone tries to rush you, slow everything down.
Put the kettle on.
Why Brain Injury Makes Me a Target
Let’s be honest. Living with a brain injury makes me the perfect target for a scam.
Reactive, desperate to avoid overload, easily fatigued, forced into binary choices.
But it’s not just me who is vulnerable to this kind of sophisticated deception.
Let’s admit something uncomfortable. We cannot eliminate scams or the criminals who create these cruel frauds. In a world designed to exploit urgency and cognitive overload, being fooled occasionally is not stupidity.
It is the cost of being human.
Talking About It Matters
The first step is to talk about it.
Share the humiliation, the anger, the depression.
Shame and isolation dissolve when spoken aloud.
Secondly, we recruit allies. Partners in the struggle.
Could Artificial Intelligence Help?
Might artificial intelligence help defend us?
Perhaps.
AI can certainly interrogate suspicious emails and messages and flag worrying patterns. But its real value may be something simpler and more human.
Opening the app forces us to pause and think.
Imagine the moment.
What was the fella on the telephone saying?
He just rang, out of the blue. Number withheld.
Grab your smartphone, laptop, iPad, whatever.
Open an AI App.
Simply doing that moves your attention away from the scam. The urgency dissipates. The moment slows. Thinking widens.
AI becomes a place to externalise the thinking. A place to cool the emotional heat and ask better questions.
In other words, it restores a little margin. A firebreak.
Other Ways to Pause
Come to think of it, there are other ways to pause.
I could walk around the garden.
Call a friend.
Or just put the kettle on.
And that is often exactly what I do.
The Phone Call
“Thank you for calling. Sounds important. I’m just going to put the kettle on and make a brew.”
“Yes but…”
“Back in ten.”
The kettle takes five minutes to boil and my caffeine-free teabags take an age to mash.
Settle down and pick up the phone.
The caller has hung up.
Of course they have.
The bastard is a scammer.
Thinking Returns
Come to think about it…
It is Sunday night.
The bank would block my account before they called me.
The caller didn’t know my name.
I’m going to take another ten minutes and drink my tea.
Then I might call my bank.
Or my friend.
Or my daughter.
I am not going to be rushed.
The kettle takes its time.
So will I.
The Kettle Rule
That is the kettle rule.
When something feels urgent, make it slow.
Put the kettle on.
If the problem is real, it will still be there when the tea is ready.
If it is a scammer, they will already be gone.
Screw AI, you got this.
Still not convinced?
Put the kettle on and have another brew.
(The beautiful illustration is provided, without permission, by my wonderfully talented and patient wife.)
